I am edgy – The Fun of Edge Play
The mantra in BDSM play is safe, sane and consensual. You are supposed to know the limits of what is safe for your physical and mental well-being, you need to be in a sober...
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Co-Dependency and Inter-Dependency in Relationships
There are a lot of theories around the term co-dependency. It is often used in the self-help community to describe unhealthy behaviour in relationships and family dynamics. But it is important to note that...
Romance in D/s Relationships
I’m not a very romantic person. At least not in the sort of way that today’s society makes you think that romance should look like. I quite abhor grand gestures, romantic dinners in expensive...
Being a Sexual Object: Objectification as a Kink
Objectification as a kink in BDSM play or D/s relationships can take many different forms. What they all have in common is that the submissive’s needs and wants do no matter anymore. They become...
I am a masochist and a painslut
I am a masochist. But I have long struggled with accepting that side of myself because it somehow implies that something just isn’t right with me. I have a history of self-harm and I...
The Submissive Mindset
In D/s dynamics, we might identify with one role or the other, but often enough that role is not all that we are. That part of us needs to be tickled out, needs to...
Control in D/s – Ambiguity of Emotions
I have always been a control freak. I need to know the whats and whys, to make sure that I feel safe. It has a lot to do with hypervigilance coming from anxiety and...
My Sexual Fantasies – Private Kinks, Pansexual Needs and Being Whored Out
For most of my life, my sexual fantasies had stayed in the realm of my imagination. I am not shy to talk about things in a public setting like my blog. But if any...
Submissive Training – How Erotic Hypnosis Enhanced My Submission
In some D/s relationship forms, the training of the submissive is a huge part of the connection. If you are a Disciplinarian Dom, or a slave submissive, a servant or just in a very...
D/S Relationships and Resets – Sliding Dynamics and Bratty Moments
When people read up on Dominant/submissive relationships and BDSM, they often get presented with shiny ideals where roles are forever set in stone and the power exchange runs smoothly once the consent discussion has...
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