Lockdown: Changes, Fears and Positives
Everyone in the world is experiencing some sort of restrictions on their daily lives at the moment. In some countries it is about a total lockdown, others have only certain rules in order, and...
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Wax Play – Sensual Pain Play
Wax play is one of the few planned BDSM play time activities that I enjoy. I usually love going with the flow, fighting for control and spontaneous sexy play. I get too distracted and...
Respect in D/s – Redefining Respect in Play
Most well-functioning relationships have a strong foundation in some basic ideas of honesty, communication and respect. If you are unable to be yourself and trust the person you are in a romantic connection or...
I am edgy – The Fun of Edge Play
The mantra in BDSM play is safe, sane and consensual. You are supposed to know the limits of what is safe for your physical and mental well-being, you need to be in a sober...
Co-Dependency and Inter-Dependency in Relationships
There are a lot of theories around the term co-dependency. It is often used in the self-help community to describe unhealthy behaviour in relationships and family dynamics. But it is important to note that...
Romance in D/s Relationships
I’m not a very romantic person. At least not in the sort of way that today’s society makes you think that romance should look like. I quite abhor grand gestures, romantic dinners in expensive...
Being a Sexual Object: Objectification as a Kink
Objectification as a kink in BDSM play or D/s relationships can take many different forms. What they all have in common is that the submissive’s needs and wants do no matter anymore. They become...
I am a masochist and a painslut
I am a masochist. But I have long struggled with accepting that side of myself because it somehow implies that something just isn’t right with me. I have a history of self-harm and I...
The Submissive Mindset
In D/s dynamics, we might identify with one role or the other, but often enough that role is not all that we are. That part of us needs to be tickled out, needs to...
Control in D/s – Ambiguity of Emotions
I have always been a control freak. I need to know the whats and whys, to make sure that I feel safe. It has a lot to do with hypervigilance coming from anxiety and...
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