Spread a Little Love

I am quite new in the sex blogging community. And I actually would have never thought I’d end up putting so much effort and time into writing about sex, kink, BDSM, D/s relationships, writing erotica, sharing pictures of myself or getting engulfed in lengthy conversations about how mental illness affects one’s sex life. I am generally the reflective type, but I still always enjoyed more to focus on others, reflect with them, and rarely talk about myself. I have a pretty decent mental health advocacy blog that has a pretty good number of followers too. Writing on that blog takes research, I don’t talk about my own experiences, but I want make sure that the information I am spreading is absolutely correct and referenced.

I am a writer. That means that I have always written. I am currently working on a novel (not sex or erotica related). One of my hobbies is hand-writing letters to my penpals from all over the world. I just never thought that my love for writing could be combined with my love for sex, BDSM, kink, sex positivity or my own sexual and romantic experiences. But here I am, doing it, and being absolutely amazed by how many people actually are interested in what I am writing!

Five Blogs I Follow and Love

After having delved into the sex blogging and sex writing community for about one and a half months now, I have come across a lot of amazing writers, thinkers and artists! I feel inspired every day, by seeing how these wonderful people give advice, share their inner most thoughts and fight the sex shaming public! So here are five of those bloggers that I am following and whose posts have inspired me a lot in my own writing:

My Controlled Ascent – A blog by kisungura

I had actually come across her blog before I even considered writing about sex and kink. She had commented on one of the posts on my mental health advocacy blog, I checked out her writing and was instantly hooked! And when I saw how memes and challenges worked in the sex blogging community, through a post on her blog, some time later, I got inspired to create this blog. I love kisungura’s writing, she really has a way with words, with expressing her emotions and describing erotic encounters in ways that are breathtaking. I’ve learnt a lot about the dynamics in D/s relationships on her blog, and what I find most inspiring are her honest reflections around her mental health and how helpful her relationship with her Dom has been in being able to find some calm.

Rebel’s Notes – A blog by Marie Rebelle

I love the absolute honesty in Marie’s blog. I am really impressed by how she doesn’t hold back when touching upon the most difficult topics or discussing her innermost feelings when it comes to her relationship with her Master. She is also an amazing artist, the sinful, sexy and naughty pictures she takes of herself are always very beautiful and tasteful. There is a strength in her that shines through in every post that she writes. She is non-apologetic about who she is, but at the same time also humble about the reality of her needs, her relationship and her involvement in the sex blogging community. She is such an inspiring human being!

A to Sub Bee – A blog by sub-Bee

I need to start with saying that the name of this blog is absolutely clever, and so is her username! She calls her Dom “Bee Keeper”, so smart! But what first drew me her to her blog were the amazing pictures of herself that she shared. But those are not the only fantastic thing about her blog, there are also a ton of interesting and reflective posts about her relationship, her kinks and her journey into sin! I absolutely love her blog!

Sex Matters – A blog by May More

May is a fantastic storyteller, both through her fiction and her photographs. I love reading her erotic stories, they have a depth that not everyone can easily capture. And her photographs are not only beautiful but also tell their own stories. She is a wonderful artist who is not at all afraid to share her kinks, her reflections around her relationship and sex life, and her honesty about anything related to sex.

Submissy – A blog by submissy

This woman, oh my, her words and her pictures. She is an artist indeed! I absolutely love her way with words, and the way she expresses herself in photographs. This blog has it all: reflections, advice and tips, wonderful pictures, product reviews and honest words about the D/s lifestyle. I am inspired by her way with words and the truth she speaks about her emotions and experiences in her relationship with her Dom.

Five Posts written by me that make me feel Proud

Aye, and here are five blogposts of my own that I am particularly proud of! I haven’t written that many posts yet, but these five were all some sort of milestone for me.

Floaty Fairy

This is the first erotic fiction I have ever written! While I am not stranger to fiction, and to sharing some of my own sexual experiences, I was not familiar with writing erotic fiction. And I must say, for my first try, I did a pretty good job!

Doppelgänger – Me, Myself and I

This was a very difficult post to write, because it exposed my innerworld and a lot of my mental health struggles, and relates them to my sex life. I have Dissociative Identity Disorder (among other things) and it is not something I often talk about, because of the stigma around it. But the Wicked Wednesday prompt was just so perfect, I couldn’t not write about it. I feel proud of myself for being brave enough to publish that post.

Childhood Abuse and Adulthood Sexuality

I did something that I had never done before: I combined mental health advocacy with my personal opinion, and related it to sex. It is something that I have been wanting to write about for a long time, and a topic that I will probably write about again. I don’t think there should be anything shameful about healing from childhood trauma through positive sexual experiences and D/s relationships!

Pleasure at the Movies

This is the first time I shared an actual sexual fantasy of mine, and worked it into erotic fiction. I have always been quite protective of the sexual thoughts in my mind, they seemed just very private. But writing this post was actually freeing!


While I have been posting sexually suggestive and naughty pictures of myself on Fetlife for quite some time, this picture is somewhat different. I don’t hide. I don’t hide my belly, that I’m a big girl. A huge step for me, because most of pictures often hide the parts of my body that I dislike the most!

This post in inspired by the Food For Thought prompt this week, the questions were:

Pick five blogs that you follow at random and tell us what it is about them that you particularly enjoy. How did you find out about them?

Feel free to tag the bloggers that you chose above and let them know.

Pick five posts/pages from your own blog that you are particularly proud of and include the links in your post.


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10 Responses

  1. May says:

    Thank you so much for your lovely words – you may be new to the sex blogging world but in my mind you are already a force to be reckoned with 😉

  2. I think I have read your words a thousand times already, and can’t tell you how grateful I am for them. Thank you so much for mentioning my blog here, and I am happy to have you as part of the sex blogging community 🙂

    Rebel xox

  3. Lovely post . . . I have just followed you here, and will definitely be returning !!!
    Xxx – K

  4. missy says:

    Thank you SO much for what you have said about me and my blog. It really means so much when someone comes along and can find something in what you write. I am really pleased that you did start your blog and think that you have a refreshing take on things both in terms of your pictures and your writing. I look forward to reading more in the future. ❤️ missy x

  5. @F4TFriday says:

    blogs/bloggers I admire very much, and definitely excellent posts of your own for discovering some insight into your world.

  6. kisungura says:

    Thank you so very much for your kind words, I’m so glad to have found your initial blog and delighted you are writing this one now as I am thoroughly enjoying your writing and images! I really appreciate being included here and it means an awful lot to be mentioned xx

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