Cum Tributes And People Masturbating to my Pictures – My Kink!

I am not shy to admit that I have a lot of kinks, and there are a lot of things that arouse me or that help me get off. Getting off is the cue here! I love when men masturbate to my pictures, and I love cum tributes! I am aware of that most women find those two things quite appalling and wouldn’t want to be told that men touched themselves to their pictures. And I get why. Of course I do! Because it is the very thing that makes me all happy and horny knowing that some got off to my pictures: objectification!

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t like being randomly hit on. I don’t like men touching me just like that, or calling me derogatory names. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I get unwanted attention from men. The emphasis is on “unwanted” here. While I don’t mind polite conversation or compliments, a lot of men take it too far. I look different and I understand that that gives me a bit more of a disadvantage when wanting to avoid the sleazy or rude men that, I am sure, most women had the pleasure to meet.

Back in the day when internet wasn’t a thing yet, these kinds of creatures attack – hugged you in clubs, suddenly grabbed your boob or pushed their tongue into your mouth. I had a guy literally grab me by the pussy in a rock club in 1998! Now you can find them in your private messages on social media. They send dick pics, they send messages telling you what they’d like to do to you, they send random hellos and then throw a tantrum when you don’t reply. Same kind of men, different circumstances.

Objectify Me! – With Consent!

In the end it is all about compliments and feeling appreciated for what you do, your looks or the way you present yourself. We all appreciate a “like” on our pictures on social media, a kind compliment about our looks or someone pointing out how well we dress. It is about the sort of comments and if we are consenting to having them in our private messages, in our comment sections, or on the subway on the way to work.

The naughtier or more sexual our interactions with others go, the more we all should be in control of consent and what is going on. We have the right to build the framework and boundaries in our interactions with others. Unfortunately there are a lot of men (okay, there are some women who are like that too) out there who do not respect that. They still grope us on public transport, they still send us unsolicited dick pics, they still send us sleazy messages or shout sexual derogatory names when they see us walking down the street.

So when I talk about how I like when men masturbate to my pictures and do cum tributes for me, I mean that I want to be able to consent. There is a reason why cum tributes are sometimes called internet rape or online rape. If you do not agree to it, and then someone is doing a sexual act to you, without your permission? That is terrible! Them sending the evidence of their action to you, is on a even more disgusting level of it. I want to make that clear again! Cum tributes and telling me that you masturbated to my pictures? That is only cool if in the right context and I have given you permission to do so!

So How Do Cum Tributes Work?

Cum tributes are basically a picture or a video of someone coming over a picture of you. Or their cum on your picture. It can be a printed out picture, it can be a picture on their phone, tablet or screen (often covered with cling film). It basically shows that they masturbated while looking at you, while thinking of you. They dedicate their cum to you.

I usually end up in private messages with someone asking if it were okay if they did a cum tribute for me. Then we decide on a picture together and they do their thing, and then they send me evidence of it, either a picture or a video of what they have done to my picture. This is how consent works! They ask me, I consent and am enthusiastic about it and then things can happen!

A big no no is for me when they want to actively engage me in their sexual fantasies. They tell me what they want to do to me and ask if that is okay. I reply that I can’t control anyone’s thoughts. They can do whatever they want in their mind, I have no opinion on it. They push and ask me how I feel about them thinking of me doing certain things while they are touching themselves. And that is when I block. I am not interested in actively engaging in a sex chat. I like being objectified by you, I don’t want to fuck you!

Because here is the thing: what arouses me about cum tributes is the objectification. I love being minimized to be nothing but a sexual object. I love to know that I am naughty and sexy enough for someone to get off when thinking of me. In a context where I agree to it, I want to feel like a slut, a sex object, something to use for other people’s sexual pleasure.

And I can get that kind of pleasure for myself in a safe context online, with cum tributes and getting to know when someone masturbated over my pictures. I don’t need to engage with them, I don’t want to fuck them. I wouldn’t want them to touch me. But! I want to know that they would want to, that their genitals and minds get turned on by me.

Some might cringe at the idea of that. But in the end, isn’t it just one step further from the appropriate and lovely comments we all allow on our social media? We feel better when we get to hear that we are beautiful or pretty. But in the right context. If it happened randomly on the street, we might be confused by compliments.

Cum tributes and getting to know that someone masturbated to my photos makes me feel objectified, fuckable and complimented. Yes, I see those things as compliments! But I can’t stress enough how important consent is here, and context! I don’t want a cum tribute from someone that I know in real life. I love the semi-anonymity online.

Get Consent – And Have Fun!

So where do I find people who want to do cum tributes and masturbate to my pictures? And tell me about it without engaging in a sex chat? For me, Fetlife has been the place. There are several groups about this specific kink. And so far I have not been contacted by any guy from those groups that was disrespectful towards me. Instead I get messages telling me that they have gotten off to a specific picture, and thanking me for allowing them to tell me about it. I get messages from guys asking if they could do a cum tribute for me. It is all respectful and consensual.

So guys, before sending unsolicited dick pics to women, or shouting nasty things to a woman passing you by on the street, why not sending her a message and ask what she would allow you to do? Because the framework of any sexual interaction should be created by all parties involved. Everyone’s pleasure is important, not just yours. And there are women like me out there who don’t mind you jerking off to them. Just let me know, so I get something out of it. I am a slut after all, in a context that I choose!