30 Days of Submission – Day 21: Submissive Position
Is there a physical position that makes you feel most submissive?
A lot of people in D/s relationships have certain rituals when beginning a play scene, or when starting certain routines of the day. I don’t really have that in my current D/s relationship. We don’t engage in things like putting on a collar, kneeling in front of the Dom before play, or inspections in the mornings. I am not sure if I would be particularly interested in most of those, because they would take away from the spontaneity that we have in our relationship. I can see how they can deepen the submissive feelings though, being put in a certain physical position as part of a ritual.
Although we don’t have any strict rituals in our relationship, there are definitely certain physical positions that either quickly guide me towards a floaty subspace or that make me feel more submissive. Some of those are sexual, others are really about the mind and how strongly submissive I feel to my Master.
One of those physical positions is when I can’t move my head because he is in control of it. That often happens when he wants to kiss me. He either pulls my hair or my ear and holds it for a second or two, looking me deep in the eyes with a look of dominance and love, and then kisses me. Just that moment before the kiss, makes me feel very submissive, the inability to move my head, his eyes that shine with dominant pleasure and caring love. I am always a little bit flushed just after, a little bit needy, and also experiencing a very blissful submissive feeling.
Most of the other positions that enhance the experience of my submission are sexual. Being on my knees in front of him, giving him a blowjob, servicing him. On my knees on the bed, butt up in the air, waiting for either a spanking, a flogging or a rough fuck. On my back, legs spread him leaning over my body so I can’t move and working on my ladyparts without any kind of escape for me. Being pinned down by the shoulders, or tied down to the bed, and him over me.
One thing I have realized is that part of my submissive needs is being taken care of and being protected. And sometimes, when I am struggling, he kneels next to me on the sofa and engulfs me with his hands, arms and body. It feels like his embrace is protecting me from all the dangers in the world, from all the possible attacks. I feel incredibly safe, and submissive to my Master in those moments. I would trust him with my life during those minutes, he can have my everything because I feel and know that he will keep me safe.
I am doing the 30 Days of Submission meme/challenge. If you are interested in doing it too, check out this link which has all the questions ready to be used!