Body Love: D is for Dick

Well, I don’t have a dick, obviously. It would have shown on my pictures by now. I wanted to write a post about appreciating my partners body but it would have felt like a repetition of a post I wrote a while ago. So instead, I am going to focus on his dick. Or cock, or penis, or member. Or whatever word you prefer for a man’s genitalia (I personally prefer cock). The interesting thing is that I am usually not very much aroused by the sight of genitalia, male or female. I don’t find them beautiful or attractive. Interesting would maybe be a word I’d use to describe them instead.

I love a lot of things about my partner’s body. Realizing that he doesn’t necessarily fit the criteria of what others might find attractive, has helped me see that just because a body doesn’t fit the norm, doesn’t mean that they are unattractive. Yet another lesson I could most likely use to counteract the negative thoughts about my own body that I often struggle with.

I have never been a huge fan of genitalia though. I get attracted to people, not bodies, in the first place. While I can of course say what sort of body I enjoy looking at most, when it comes to falling in love, or who would arouse me, personality and wit plays a way bigger role and than physical attractiveness.

But when being in a relationship, or having any sort of real life sexual interactions, the body itself and the genitalia become important. So to make the decision if I want to have sex with someone, doesn’t have a lot to do with what they look like or what they have between their legs. That is why I so very much feel fine with the term pansexual to describe myself. Gender and sex don’t matter to me.

But here’s the funny thing. Once I am in the sexual situation, I need their genitals to be what I need to get off. For vaginas it is the smell that is important to me, and for dicks? I am sorry to say, but if I want to get off while being actually fucked, size matters. I have had partners with different sizes and shapes. And while some of them were good at things like foreplay or BDSM play, if their dick did not fit my vagina, I couldn’t get off vaginally.

It is simple physics, really. There needs to be the right amount of rubbing of the g-spot, and at the same time, I don’t want to be distracted by the pain of a head hitting against my uterus. I can get off in other ways, of course, but if I am selfish and want everything, I need to have the right size and shape of a cock. Am I alone with this?

I didn’t even know that sort of dick existed. I thought that dildos were that thing, that perfect size and shape. How wrong I was! I am lucky enough to be with someone whose dick I admire and love. And it is not the sort of cock worship you’d maybe expect from a submissive. Nope, it is just the actual physical compatibility: my partner’s dick is perfect for my cunt, they fit perfectly size wise, and he can make me come vaginally when penetrating me.

And it is not only that. I realized that I love the thick veins, I love the big head, and I love to feel when it grows bigger in my hand, my mouth or my cunt. It is really odd, because I never had the affinity towards genitalia. And I still look at pictures, videos or even flacid cocks and I shrug it off. They do nothing for me. I mean, I can appreciate an aesthetically creative and artful image of a dick or a vagina. But I don’t get aroused by it. It does absolutely nothing for me.

And I think if my partner would send me dick pics, I’d not be interested much either. It is about the physical experience, still. It is about the smell, the sensation of touching it, tasting it and feeling it, and feeling being filled and fucked with it. These are all sensations I never thought I’d appreciate as much I do now.

But I also think I am lucky. I love my partner’s cock. But I know from experience, that not all genitalia are a fit. I don’t even generally think there is something like a perfect cock. Everyone has different preferences, and different holes that they want to get filled. And most women can’t even have vaginal orgasms. So some might want circumcised small penises, or those that are thick, or thin, or huge. I think that I have found someone who has the dick that meets exactly what turns me on, and can make me come, is a bit like winning the lottery. And that is why I had to write this post. I love my partner’s dick.

I am doing the A to Z challenge during the month of April. My theme is Body Love. So you will get 26 posts from me, following the alphabet, related to the topic body love. You can check out more about the to A to Z challenge by clicking on the banner. You can find a list of sexbloggers participating in the challenge on Mrs Fever’s site.